How to address someone in Hungarian



Alfred Grévin: Man Bowing to a Woman (Source: Wikimedia Commons)

I have been planning to write about this topic for a long time, and finally here it is! Now I’m including only the casual, non-noble forms of address in the Hungarian language – I’d like to cover the (complex and sometimes difficult even for Hungarians) topic of Hungarian royal and noble styles in another article. So let’s see how a person should be addressed in a casual situation.

First of all, everything depends on the gender. Though in many aspects the Hungarian language do bear resemblance to East Asian languages (e.g. Japanese and Korean, where there are gender-neutral honorific suffixes such as san in Japanese and ssi in Korean), Hungarian has no gender-neutral honorific suffix. However, similarly to the Japanese and Korean languages, the suffixes attach to the title or the family name of a person. For example, when addressing a teacher (“tanár”), we say “Tanár úr”, and when a director general (“főigazgató”), we say “Főigazgató úr”. In the case of names, the honorific suffixes are attached to the family name, not to the given name – János KOVÁCS is called “Kovács úr”, not “János úr” (though the latter may occur in certain cases) –, or to the full name (“Kovács János úr”).

Now let’s see which suffix should be used depending on the gender, marital status and age. Please note that in direct conversation we almost always use the first person singular possessive form of the suffixes to address our conversation partner.

1.                  Úr (English equivalent: Mr. / Lord or Sir)
Gender: Male; Marital status: –; Age: adults
“Úr” is the general male honorific suffix in Hungarian. To be honest, I cannot name any other suffixes for males – the other ones, such as “nagyúr” (lit. “Grand Lord”) and “fiatalúr” (lit. “Young Lord”) are all derivatives of “úr”. Direct conversation form: “uram”.

2.                  Asszony (English equivalent: Mrs. / My Lady or Ma’am)
Gender: Female; Marital status: married; Age: adults
“Asszony” is the honorific suffix for married women. When used for speaking about someone it’s equivalent to “Mrs.” in English, therefore “Kovács(né) asszony” can be translated as “Mrs. Kovács” (the suffix “-né” also expresses the marital status, but adding “asszony” makes it more polite). In cases where the honorific suffix is attached to titles, “asszony” takes the role of “úr’s” female form, regardless the marital status. Therefore “igazgató úr” becomes “igazgató asszony” in every cases, and it doesn’t matter whether the (female) Director is married or not. There are some exceptions, however, to which “asszony” cannot be added: “tanár” becomes “tanárnő” and not “tanár asszony”, “doktor” becomes “doktornő” and not “doctor asszony”, etc.. There’re no grammatical reasons why you cannot add the suffix and it’s not rude to say “tanár asszony”, it’s just simply strange and unusual. Sometimes both “asszony” and can be used: in these cases, the “asszony”-form is more polite and is said when addressing someone (e.g. miniszterelnök asszony”), while the -variant is often used to talk about someone (e.g. miniszterelnöknő, both meaning female Prime Minister”) in a less formal way – though if you want to be really polite, you can use the “asszony”-form too to talk about people In direct conversations the form is “asszonyom”.

3.                  Kisasszony (English equivalent: Miss / My Lady or Mademoiselle)
Gender: Female; Marital status: unmarried; Age: young adults
“Kisasszony” is the same as Mademoiselle in French. It literally means “little madam” and therefore it is to address young, unmarried women. Nowadays it’s rarely used in colloquial conversations due to the fact that all forms of Hungarian honorifics were to be “deleted” from the language during the Soviet era. After the regime change the honorific suffixes were reinstated, but “kisasszony” somehow remained unpopular and a little bit old-fashioned. (Maybe because tegeződés became common between youngsters, and nowadays elder people also use tegeződés to youngers, instead of magázódás.) Personally I really like this one and feel extremely honoured when someone calls me “kisasszony”.

Both “asszony” and “kisasszony” can be added to “úr”, making them “úrasszony” and “úrkisasszony”, respectively. These forms are – were, to be more exact – to call women from the nobility and are no longer used in modern Hungarian.


4.                  Hölgy (English equivalent: Ms. / My Lady, Mademoiselle or Ma’am)
Gender: Female; Marital Status: –; Age: adults
“Hölgy” is a somehow convenient form to address a woman, as it represents neither marital status nor age restrictions. However, it can be used only to address your conversation partner; attaching it to titles is not possible (you cannot say “igazgató hölgy”). “Úrhölgy” is the extremely polite and rarely used form of “hölgy”, which – just to make it more complicated – can only stand with a full name (e.g. “Kovács Katalin úrhölgy”), mainly in official documents (such as degrees and other certificates). Direct conversation form: “hölgyem”.

Thank you for reading.

Alla

Comments

  1. Köszönöm szépen! Egy Amerikai ferfitől

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  2. Very helpful! I don't want to seem a complete boob even in a bit of business correspondence.

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